A mother who attended a recent presentation during which I described the differences between high self-esteem and humility writes, asking, "What should my husband and I be doing to help our children develop humble hearts?" Before I answer her question, I need to point out two things: First, humility was the cultural ideal up until the late 1960s, at which point self-esteem theory began to hold sway. Second, the research is clear that people who possess high self-esteem do not have good emotional coping skills, are highly prone to regular episodes of depression and tend toward sociopathy.