I recently told a group of 50 teachers, “Raise your hand if you agree that when a child comes to an adult asking for help with an academic problem, the adult should help.” Fifty hands went up. So, then I asked, “Now raise your hand if you agree that 80 percent of the time, on average, that a child says he needs help with a problem, he does not truly need help; he has simply reached the limit of his tolerance for frustration and wants someone else to solve the problem for him.”