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Why you should break-up with your boyfriend
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Breaking-up is hard to do, but sometimes you gotta do it. - photo by Tamsyn Valentine
Break-ups are hard in general, whether you are the one doing the breaking-up, or on the receiving end of the bad news.

No one wants to be that person, the one that says, We need to talk.

However, there are times when ending a relationship is the best thing for both people involved. Here are 5 reasons why:

1. You keep thinking about it

When you find yourself thinking more and more about breaking-up, its usually time to do it. There are usually some reasons that you keep thinking about it, so it is only fair to yourself and your significant other to discuss it or go through with it.

2. You dont feel that spark

Now, this is something to be weary of, because there are times as woman when we can overanalyze our emotions. However, if you find yourself losing interest in the one you are dating, that could be a sign that things are going south.

When you are interested in someone you are interested in them, its as simple as that. We know how we really feel more than we think we do, and most of the time we are just making excuses to not have to do something difficult.

3. You have different end goals

Sometimes it comes down to whether or not you have the same end goals. Does he want to get married? Does he want a family? Is he concerned about you wanting to work after you have kids? In the end these things are really important to a lasting relationship, so if you find that his mission in life doesnt match yours that might mean things need to end.

4. Youd rather be alone than with him

If you find yourself wanting to spend less time with him, and more time alone or with friends, that can mean it is time to go your separate ways. Spending time with your boyfriend should not feel like a drag; it should be something that you always look forward to and cherish. Being invested in a relationship means being emotionally and physically present, so if it becomes difficult to do these things than it is time to break-up.

5. You have concerns

If you have witnessed worrisome behavior such as outbursts of anger, controlling behavior, or illegal activity of any sort, end the relationship. If your concerns are not so life-threatening but have to do with you wanting to change his personality or how he dresses, then those are things to think about a little more. Can you live with these, or are they deal breakers? In the end we cant really change people, and why would you want to if you really love them?

It is okay to want to end a relationship. You are not a horrible person, and it is good to know what you do and do not want. They might be hurt at first, but in the long run, they will be grateful that you recognized the relationship wasnt working.
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