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One big reason to quit your rom-com binge-watching
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Seriously. Romantic comedies could put you in danger. And not because you ran out of tissues. - photo by Herb Scribner
There are few times throughout the year when there isnt a romantic comedy movie playing somewhere. From Youve Got Mail in 1998 to The Longest Ride in 2015, youd be hard-pressed to not find a rom-com film in theaters or on television at some point.

But romantic comedies arent just an easy date-night choice or a way to pass the time on a rainy Saturday. The films have actually proven to be dangerous for viewers, putting into question why we often flock to them if they have such negative effects.

The most immediate danger comes from the behavior thats shown in these films. A new study from the University of Michigan has found that women who watch more romantic comedies tend to be more accepting of aggressive male behavior.

Thats because in some films, like Love Actually or Theres Something About Mary, the male characters engage in stalker-like behavior that women will sometimes tolerate in their real romantic relationships, The Guardian reported.

Women in the study were more tolerant of aggressive male behavior than women who watch movies that include actual male aggression, like Enough, a story about a single mother who leaves her abusive husband, or even some documentaries, The Guardian reported.

After watching excerpts from one of these six films, participants completed a series of survey measures, including one that assessed their endorsement of stalking myths, expert Julia R. Lippman of the University of Michigan told The Guardian. Stalking myths are false or exaggerated beliefs about stalking that minimize its seriousness, which means that someone who more strongly endorses these tends to take stalking less seriously.

This was most likely because the films with too much male aggressive behavior portray it in a negative light, whereas romantic comedies show it to be funny, comedic or even goofy.

These films also embrace the idea that love conquers all something that forces women to discount their instincts, Lippman said.

At their core, all these films are trading in the love conquers all myth, she added. Even though, of course, it doesnt. Love is great, but so is respect for other people.

This isnt an uncommon idea, either. The Atlantics Chloe Angyal wrote in 2011 that some actions in romantic comedies which some may classify as borderline stalking are portrayed as romantic. Simple acts of persistence are seen as goofy, when in real life they are darker than they appear.

In real life, when a boy won't stop texting the girl he likes even after she has asked him to stop, we call it relationship abuse, Angyal wrote. When a guy won't stop telling you he loves you, and when he shows up at your school and embarrasses you in front of your peers, we call that borderline stalking. In rom-coms, however, these things are called persistence and are considered romantic.

But that doesnt mean you should throw out your DVD copy of Love Actually just yet. Romantic comedies can be beneficial in certain situations when your life isnt going the way you think. That idea is called embodied cognition and refers to the idea that your perception affects your thinking, Dr. Marisa Cohen wrote for Science of Relationships.

This comes from a 2012 study that looked into how physical coldness affects how much one likes romantic movies. The study found that when youre colder, romantic comedy films will make you feel warmer and more comfortable in your environment.

To find this, researchers assigned 53 participants to drink something either cold or hot; the participants then were given information on three movies from the romance, action, comedy and thriller genres, Cohen explained.

The participants were then asked to rate how they felt about the movies. Researchers found those who had the cold drink liked romantic comedies more than those with hot drinks.

As many of us prepare to endure for what may be the coldest and worst part of the winter, take a tip from the research and queue up your Netflix for plenty of romance rentals, Cohen wrote. Not only will they be entertaining, but they may bring you some much-needed warmth.
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