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8 ways to actually find a man you love
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Can't find Mr. Right? Learn what you can do to find the perfect man for you. - photo by Emily Cummings
Though Hollywood portrays falling in love as instantaneous, in the real world, its not usually the case. For the non-rom-com star, there are not-so-great dates to be endured before meeting Mr. Right. Unless you love playing the dating game over and over and over again, you can use a handful of ways to streamline the process to date people youd honestly want to date. Walk down memory lane Not that you need to live in the past, but there are some truths to be found from boyfriends who turned out not to be your one true love. Before you start dating again, think about things you loved about past relationships while also considering things you wont stand for in another boyfriend. Doing just that will help you avoid a second date with someone who might seem perfect but actually just reminds you of the rocker you dated in high school.

Figure yourself out If you arent exactly sure what you are looking for in a man, Mr. Wonderful could waltz right up and you wouldnt take a second glance. Be sure you know who you are before you get mixed up in a relationship. Establish your personality, your goals, your qualities, etc. before jumping into the dating scene. Listen to the Spice Girls Theres some serious truth to the classic Spice Girls line, If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends. Blind dates arent all bad if your friends can help do some date screening to find someone youd be compatible with. (As an important note, Hes single, and you're single is not enough in common for a set up.) Let your friends know what kind of person you're interested in dating, and ask for their help in finding him. Match your goals If you can tell right off the bat your goals dont match up, there is no use going on a second date. Early on in the relationship, see if you both are looking for the same thing in the relationship like marriage sometime in the future, wanting kids, not wanting kids, etc. Be your best yourself Its easy to glaze over this tidbit, but you arent likely to attract anyone if you arent worth attracting. You are looking for someone who is confident, motivated, happy and so on. Doesnt it make sense that your future partner is looking for the same qualities? Dont forget to spend time focusing on yourself while playing the dating game. Do things you like to do You are likely to find someone who loves music at a concert, so why not hang around certain venues based on who youd like to "randomly" bump into? Finding someone with mutual interests is easier when you are in a mutual location. Be the person you'd like to date You dont want to be someone you are not, but if you are looking for someone who is outgoing, you need more adventure than staying inside on a Friday night. If you want someone outgoing, you are probably going to need to be a little outgoing yourself. Be patient This last point is a pretty self-explanatory but can't be forgotten. Even when you know what you are looking for, it can take some time for you two to find each other. Its much easier said than done, so be patient. And if you do get fed up with the dating game, take comfort. If you arent dating anyone, there is no way you can end up on a PDA Instagram account.
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