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5 more signs your guy is not over his ex
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Here are 5 more things to look for when you suspect your boyfriend may not be completely free from his former love. - photo by Georgia Lee
Tension can rise to a fever pitch when you think your boyfriend has the hots for a new girl. But dont be so quick to overlook a very real possibility. He may still have feelings for the old one!

When old flames fail to die down, its time to take a good hard look at your man and see the truth behind his suspicious behavior.

Here are 5 more signs your guy hasnt completely axed his ex:

1. Hes still REALLY good friends with her.

Staying friends with an ex is a delicate endeavor.

This tightrope can be fraught with jealousy, insensitivity, and lack of foresight. If hes open and honest about how much time he spends with her, and exactly how close this quality time is, you might be okay; especially if shes moved on, too. But if hes secretive, vague or annoyed at any probing into their friendship, rethink your relationship. He may not be cheating, but he is hiding something.

2. He controls your relationship with her.

If your guy decided to stay friends with his ex and tries to force you two to be friends, or works hard to keep you two away from each other, look out. Hes trying to control the situation because hes afraid he wont be able to control himself.

Letting things evolve naturally would be too risky, so he needs to keep you two far apart or close by all the time so you dont ask questions about the both of them. Its about keeping you secluded or overexposed to ward off suspicion.

3. Youre his rebound.

Be diligent in getting the dish on your guys relevant dating history; especially his most recent breakup. Be cautious of how things began and ended with them.

If he came running to you after she ran out on him, theres a good chance hed run back if she gave him the chance. Dont be the placeholder for who he really wants: the one that got away.

4. He calls you her name.

Watch out for this red flag! Once is a Freudian slip. Twice is a faux paw. Three times and its the green light to get out of there.

5. He HATES her new boyfriend.

No one expects to fall in love with their exs new beau, but if your boyfriend absolutely despises his exs new man there may be some unresolved feelings there- particularly if your guy has no good reason to dislike her new man.

If you see no issues with his exs new choice but he seems ready for a fight at a moments notice, you may have a brewing boxing match on your hands; and they wont be fighting over you.

Sometimes it can be hard to peel apart the layers of a good friendship to find the hidden feelings in these past romances. Theres a fine line between insecure jealousy and sharp observation of real unusual behavior. Maybe youre not just seeing things?

Stay vigilant in your relationship, and confront your issues with composure and respect. You might find things are not as bad as they seem. But at the very worst, youll at least know to always trust your instincts.
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